The Christian thing to do when someone sees a brother or sister in the valley is to say, "Please call me if you need anything." Or, "Let me know what I can do to help." It is meant to be a kind gesture, showing love and care.
I have said this exact thing many times before. The same statements have been added to emails and Facebook comments.
From experience, I have learned that 99% of the time, the person will not call me. Not because they don't need the help but because...they just won't.
While some of us say this comment with sincere thoughts, I wonder if we sometimes say it out of laziness knowing the person will never call us. Basically, it place the burden in the other person's lap to make us feel better. Almost like a cop out of, "Well I offered!"
Let me give you an example.
What I am sharing is an actual text from a sweet gal in my Bible study that I received before Little Man had surgery.
Incredibly sweet. And I know that this girl meant it. She would have been at my door in a flash if I asked her too. But let's be honest. I knew upon reading her text that I wouldn't ask her.Will you please text me if you get overwhelmed or need help? I don't want to hover or smother but I am available! :)
About two minutes after receiving this text, I received another one from her.
Okay...scratch that. I have a better idea...haha. How about I bring you guys some lasagna, breadsticks and salad for dinner on Monday between 5-5:30 p.m. Will that work for you?Well, an idiot would refuse this gesture of love!
Please understand that my friend deeply meant what she said when she offered her help in the initial text. I know her heart. But when she stepped back, she heard the Holy Spirit tell her how to help.
I am not saying that offering to help is always a cop out. Sometimes in difficult situations we don't know how to help. What I am encouraging us all to do is seek the Holy Spirit as He will guide us to the one thing we can do to bless a family in need, if we simply listen.
Are we passing on the "Christian comment" or are we listening to what the Holy Spirit would have us do?