Friday, June 4, 2010

Clarification to Mr. Rosemond

After a question and comment, I wanted to clarify my stance with Mr. Rosemond.  I have only reviewed one of his books so I base my stance on The Well-Behaved Child and this weeks article refuting SPD. 

I typically follow a very no-nonsense approach to discipline.  You did it, you were wrong, here are the consequences.  Thus, I have no trouble with doing extremely things to help a child gain control of their behavior.  Mr. Rosemond using the suggestion of totally stripping a child's room several times in his book.  I totally agree that this can be an effective method of discipline.

I do have a problem with leaving a young child in the bathroom all day until they decide to use the bathroom.  If I left my child in the bathroom all day, they would find all kinds of mischief to get into and cause major water damage. 

I also have a problem with doing extreme discipline for first time offenses.  I felt that Mr. Rosemond's approach was pretty harsh sometimes for little offenses.  I realize that little things get big but kids are kids. 

He also suggests that a child immediately go to their room after an offense.  That is all fine and dandy but what do you do when a child refuses to stay in their room for hours? Unless I missed this, it is never covered.
As stated in my review,  if we stuck our son in his room everyday that he was "off" as Mr. Rosemond suggests, he would live in his room 75% of the time. It would not help him learn how to deal with the sensory issues. Also, it would not give him the required sensory input that he is needing. Also, I do believe, unlike the author, that punishments should fit the crime when possible. Creative parenting can be very effective. I do believe that parents who have "lost control", never knew how to discipline in the first place, or have teenagers who are a mess - I think some of his stuff could be good. My concern would be with a teenager totally rebelling because of the extremeness though.



 
In closing, I would have to say that Mr. Rosemond's methods is how I probably would have disciplined before Bub's issues and growth in my own life. But now I understand that there needs to be room for grace or the understanding of the fact that a child is simply a child.

3 comments :

  1. As a side note, he recently stated in his column that "the existence of this disorder (sensory processing disorder) is completely speculative." (Ark. Dem Gaz. 6/2/10)

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  2. ok, just backed up to the previous post about this! Sorry friend:) I shouldn't be allowed on the computer this late at night:)

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  3. amen. until one has a child with a challenge, one cannot possibly give advice! did i understand you to say that he suggests SPD is not real? if so, how dare he?

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